Let's say you are involved with someone and things don't go well between you. Depending on the baggage that person holds, they may feel something like anger toward you, or condescending toward you, or even annoyed. They may actually in their own minds conduct a conversation with you about your faults, etc. YOU as an empath will feel things like, tremendous guilt, like you have done something incredibly wrong, are stupid, etc. And you will feel that very very intensely. You may even start to cry uncontrollably while you are dumping on yourself. This isn't YOU!!!
But it can surely wreak havoc with your self esteem if you allow yourself to wallow in THEIR feelings about you. This has happened to me many times over the years as I was getting in touch with my empathy. I would cry uncontrollably and beat myself up with a baseball bat and think that I was such a horrible person and didn't deserve to have this relationship, or this opportunity, etc., when in reality I was picking up on that person's condescension toward me, or lashing out their anger at me within themselves.
If this happens to you, you need to step back, start to breathe, say your name over and over again and ask "What am I feeling", and then FEEL your own energy, if you can. It will help you see things much more clearly. You can also keep a journal and document when you start feeling intense emotions about anything and then as you become more adept in discerning what is you and what is other people that you are feeling, and when people come back and tell you what they are feeling, you can go back and check and compare it with what you documented - good way to develop your empathic talent even more!!
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