I started drinking coffee when I was 20 years old. I got married when I was 20 years old also, and found that I would always "tire" around early to mid afternoon, which is why I started drinking coffee. Coffee is my "vice", my "addiction"...but looking back, it wasn't until I was married and my husband, who was working in the corporate world, complained of being tired early to mid afternoon, and it finally dawned on me that I was drinking coffee because I was feeling HIS fatigue! It took me years for that realization to hit me.
I do understand that coffee is a mild addiction, but I also found that once I became aware of my empathic traits, as an unskilled empath, my tolerance for alcohol became much less if someone around me was also drinking. OR if the man I was with at the time (I am now divorced) was a smoker and/or drinker, my desire for coffee or wine also increased. If I was with a man who was neither a smoker nor a drinker, I could abstain from both very easily.
Again, not to diminish our responsibility for temperance, it is clear to me that the people we are closest to really impact our lives so deeply and completely that for "sensitives" it is absolutely necessary to learn blocking skills and coping skills to be able to be the best "us" we can be within the confines of our current relationships with family and significant others.
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